So, as I people-watched and anxiously moderated the evening, I began noticing a lot of cracks in the surface, as one often does when analyzing a crowd.
Because it's even shadier if you can convince her you're not one.
1. Flirt with her under the radar for the first while if you’re unsure of where you stand, and when she calls you out on it tell her you were just being a nice friend and make her feel as though she has a problem with misinterpreting affection.
1. Very few people are really thinking about you.
In fact, what others see in you is largely contingent upon the way they look at themselves. In time you’ll learn this is a freedom and not a liability.
Someone very wise once gave me a solid piece of advice — one that has managed to inhabit my mind ever since. We were in a heated chat about life over drinks at some obscure restaurant in Toronto, sitting beneath ground level in dim lighting and on booths I recall being velvet.
An important lesson I’ve come to learn is that high school doesn’t end the moment you graduate. Irrespective of the career you find yourself in or the office you end up working at, there will always be people who react to things like a child would: defensively, aggressively, and immaturely.
A common theme in my life lately has been the fact that I’ve started saying “no” a lot more often. This phenomenon has been popping up in my professional life, and it’s manifested as turning down work or projects. It’s also been arising in my personal life, by way of saying no to certain friendships that I cannot accommodate any longer, or situations that I do not wish to entertain.
1. The notion that situations just happen to us and that we bear no influence over attracting them. We are not in control over everything we fall into throughout our lives, but we can exert enough self-control to not attract certain circumstances.
To be honest, it’s only just recently that I’ve to learn that I fall within the millennial generation. I always thought I was a part of Generation Y, but it appears that this term has been since replaced.
When two opinions differ in conversation, it is such a difficult thing to have each person understand the other. The irony is that when we’re in conflict with someone, we’re actually more alike than we are different. Think about it — we both think we’re right about the same topic and yet neither of us can empathize with the other.
Being an adult is hard, but it’s much harder when you lack the knowledge and skills to adequately care for yourself and others.
The more you value your own life, the more you’ll make choices that honour who you are, support your happiness and enrich the lives of those around you.