While I don’t support affairs, nor am I confident that I’d have the ability to even get past one, I do on some vital level seek to understand the workings behind them. And apparently, there’s a lot more to cheating than what I was aware of. So I argue that we need to talk about about infidelity, whether we’re currently in a relationship or not, and whether we’ve experienced it (yet) or not.
The ABCs of Dealing With Difficult People
A three-pronged approach.
“From the backstabbing co-worker to the meddling sister-in-law, you are in charge of how you react to the people and events in your life. You can either give negativity power over your life or you can choose happiness instead. —Anaïs Nin
When I run into difficult people, I keep running. It sounds cliché, but it’s true: the people I keep close are a facet of my self care, and my life is too important to waste time unnecessaril...
One of the things that I’ve had to change within my own relationships is that I can no longer be the one with all the answers. No matter how much I care, or how educated I am on the matter, I’m finished with being the person sought out by others during their time of crisis.
So you broke up a long time ago but every time you touch the wound it feels as though it’s fresh and raw. You can’t stand to think of it because it feels like you’re getting your heart broken all over again each time. Yet you can’t seem to rinse it out of your mind, either.
So, as I people-watched and anxiously moderated the evening, I began noticing a lot of cracks in the surface, as one often does when analyzing a crowd.
Because it's even shadier if you can convince her you're not one.
1. Flirt with her under the radar for the first while if you’re unsure of where you stand, and when she calls you out on it tell her you were just being a nice friend and make her feel as though she has a problem with misinterpreting affection.
1. Very few people are really thinking about you.
In fact, what others see in you is largely contingent upon the way they look at themselves. In time you’ll learn this is a freedom and not a liability.
Someone very wise once gave me a solid piece of advice — one that has managed to inhabit my mind ever since. We were in a heated chat about life over drinks at some obscure restaurant in Toronto, sitting beneath ground level in dim lighting and on booths I recall being velvet.